Finding out that a friend is being held in jail because he or she could not meet bond requirements or for some other serious offense is shocking. Imagining how your friend must feel is probably very hard if you have never been in jail, and you might be wondering what you can do to help your friend feel a little bit better during this uncertain and scary time. There are a few things that you can do to help your friend while he or she awaits trial.
Offer to be a reliable friend to deliver messages. Your friend probably had lots of unfinished business before he or she suddenly found him or herself in jail. There may still be loved ones that need to know the truth of where your friend is now living. Your friend might need to explain to his or her boss why he or she missed work. Offer to help out by making those phone calls to people that are unaware of what has happened without bias or judgment.
Ask your friend whether he or she needs errands to be completed. Perhaps your friend needs to still pay bills but finds it difficult while in jail. You could offer to do these things for your friend or run any errands that still need to be completed. Make sure your friend’s mail is being looked after and forwarded, and you may even need to help pack his or her things if your friend is about to lose his or her home.
Offer to take care of your friend’s pets. Many times people forget about the pet that has been left behind, but chances are that your friend is deeply worried about it. Offer to take the pet, at least for a while, until the situation becomes better known. If you cannot take the pet, maybe you can arrange for someone else to care for it instead. Your friend will at least have one last thing to worry about during this difficult time.
Research some good lawyers in the area for your friend. It can be very difficult for someone to research about anything while in jail, let alone researching something as important as finding adequate legal help. Do some research on your own and give your friend the results of your efforts. Your friend may benefit greatly if he or she is able to find a very good attorney to help represent him or her in the case.
Write to your friend often so he or she knows that you have not deserted him or her. It can become very easy for anyone in jail to feel isolated and as if everyone is forgetting about him or her. You can make sure that you friend knows that you still care and offer your support by writing him or her letters during the time that your friend is incarcerated.
Loan your friend some money for items that need to be purchased in jail. Petty items like snacks and other comforts can mean a lot when they are no longer able to be gotten easily in jail. Your friend may be able to purchase them if he or she has access to some money. Find out how you can help your friend out by speaking to the jail on how you could loan your friend money according to the jail rules.
Remember that anyone can find themselves in a tough situation where they would not have dreamed it possible before. You could easily find yourself in a bad situation someday and need a friend’s help. You can be a great friend now by providing your support to your friend while they are in jail.