Looking back: Is it helpful?
Do you ever look back at past events in your life and ponder them, perhaps for a minute, an hour or longer? I know that I do so, and I didn’t think negatively of that activity until I read these lines on Twitter the other day:
You’re on the right track when you become uninterested in looking back.
(My apologies that I didn’t write down the name of the Twitter user who shared that line on the social network. I wrote the words on a scrap piece of paper and have been mulling over the line ever since then).
Some people say “never look back” but I think that’s wrong, and here’s why.
Here’s what struck me about that Tweet. I don’t necessarily agree with them. I mean, isn’t it all about HOW you look back on your life?
If you are taking a look at what has happened and are learning from past mistakes, then it is a positive thing to be looking back, in my opinion. It is self-reflection, essentially. If, however, when you look back, you do so primarily with a goal to wallow in negativity and self-loathing, it is not a healthy thing to do. Doing so can take you to a darker place than you already may be in the present day.
As well, what are we without our past? I am certainly not one who has a perfect past, but I do consider the way I am today very much to be a reflection of both happy and awful events in my past. The ways I have grown from those experiences is a major contributor to the Christy I am today. The awful ones, by the way, have strengthened me so much.
According to my views, the original statement I read is not an absolute but is instead conditional. It depends on how you view your past. In other words, it is contingent on your mindset.
What are your thoughts on the phrase I read on Twitter? Do you think that having an interest in the past is necessarily a bad thing? Or, is it conditional, as I suggest here? I would love to hear your views, as always!